Signals Women Should Notice

2 Nov

I was originally going to make my own list of a male potential suitor, basically a female version of Donalgraeme’s post, but I opted not to.

Instead, I wanted to share with women characteristics of a man women should be looking for.

For some strange reason (reasons I honestly don’t know why), but women tend to flock to men who are loud, boisterous, and promiscuous. I don’t understand this. Women, please use good judgement. These men are simple minded. 


1.) Who does he hang around with?

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. (Psalm 1:1-3)

Is he always out partying? Trying to have sex with as many girls as he can? 
Is this the kind of man you want to father your children? Will he be committed to you? Will he be able to lead a family properly? 

2.) What do people say about him?

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. (Ephesians 5:1-4) 

3.) Humbleness

I don’t know why, but I find a man who is capable yet humble to be extremely attractive. Someone who is sure of themselves and what they are capable of, have no need to boast. 

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,” (1 Peter 5:6)

“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. …” (Philippians 2:3-11)

4.) Man of God

Saving the most important for last. To all the women out there, I want to say something first: Whatever the world has been telling you is true masculinity–is not. Today’s “masculine men” are weak. We tell men that they are masculine when they give into their carnal urges, that by giving into their flesh makes them strong. There is no skill in that. There is nothing impressive or difficult in that. True masculinity is discipline. A godly masculine man utilizes his masculinity wisely. He is not brash. He uses his sexuality and strength in a way that pleases the Lord. 

“I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man, and keep the charge of the Lord your God, walking in his ways and keeping his statutes, his commandments, his rules, and his testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn, that the Lord may establish his word that he spoke concerning me, saying, ‘If your sons pay close attention to their way, to walk before me in faithfulness with all their heart and with all their soul, you shall not lack a man on the throne of Israel.’” (1 Kings 2:2-4)

Doe he fear God? Is he a leader? Brave? Intelligent? 

Flip side of the coin

Time for self evaluation. To all Christian women:

Who do you hang around with?

What do people say about you?

Are you humble?

Are you a woman of God?


I understand that this was a bit of a heavy topic, different from most of my posts, but I felt compelled to post this. My next post will be on how to wear skirts and dresses in the winter (while staying warm) and just some other feminine thing <3. 

God bless! 🙂


13 Responses to “Signals Women Should Notice”

  1. donalgraeme November 2, 2013 at 5:00 am #

    Thanks for the link. At this point I think both lists, one of what you are looking for, and the other of what you have to offer, are valuable. But only together, otherwise you risk entitlement or being taken advantage of. I do like your questions at the end, that is a good approach to take.

  2. seriouslypleasedropit November 2, 2013 at 5:35 am #

    “For some strange reason (reasons I honestly don’t know why), but women tend to flock to men who are loud, boisterous, and promiscuous.”

    I assume you mean this rhetorically? There’s been a lot of writing about this by some people who follow your blog…

    • lovelyleblanc7 November 2, 2013 at 12:29 pm #

      I mean it both ways, part of it is a genuine question.
      Could you provide some links please?

  3. Wintery Knight November 8, 2013 at 12:37 am #

    One of the neat things men can do is pick women who are doing a good job of serving God, and then pay attention to them. It’s one way of using your masculinity to encourage the good things that women do. After all, it’s hard being good when no one pays you any attention.

    • lovelyleblanc7 November 8, 2013 at 1:04 am #

      I agree with this completely. It would certainly make me more conscious of my actions! Though, a man would do better to silently observe (naturalistic observation?) to see her true nature.
      These days people are just going into relationships solely based on a fleeting emotion with no practicality involved.

  4. POCOMAXA November 11, 2013 at 5:51 am #

    2.) What do people say about him?

    Careful, careful. Take heed to this lament, posted at Sunshine’s, with attention to this excerpt:

    3) Rumors… As my income and status rose in my 30s, I found, after a certain point, that it was suddenly very easy to get dates everywhere EXCEPT what was then my primary church. WFT? Long afterwards, due to someone’s confession, I learned the reason: most of the single women at the church had had heard awful rumors about me, sometimes accompanied by warnings, “Oh, don’t date him, he’s [insert a falsehood]“. An undeserved bad reputation is romantic death.

    Don’t always believe what’s said about someone. Check it out for yourself. It might be an outrageous pack of lies.

    Sex and money are what screw up most people’s spiritual lives, so a person who is saving sex till marriage, and who actually tithes, is worth a closer look. No matter what rumors say.

    • POCOMAXA November 11, 2013 at 6:04 am #

      PS — that same poster noted, in another context (don’t have a ink), that the key ORIGINATOR of the rumors, ultimately turned out to be a woman in ministry — who, under that ministry mantle, solemnly warned girls away from him.

      So, again: Don’t believe everything that’s said. Certainly keep your eyes open, and CONSIDER it because it MIGHT be true, but…. it could all be wrong. Even if it comes from someone in ministry.

    • lovelyleblanc7 November 11, 2013 at 6:06 am #

      This is very true, but if he fits all the other criteria, being humble, surrounds himself by good people, and is a man of God. It should be easy to dispel those rumors.

      • POCOMAXA November 11, 2013 at 6:52 am #

        if he… is a man of God. It should be easy to dispel those rumors.

        Clearly you’ve never dealt with a rumor. That type of situation is all but unfixable. The people whose minds need to be changed, won’t let you get close enough to them, to prove yourself.

        All you can do is walk away.

      • lovelyleblanc7 November 11, 2013 at 5:50 pm #

        I have and I’m pretty sure most people have. I have been on the receiving end of rumors also. Actions speak louder than words. Most of the criteria were based off of the actions of a man, not the words. If a man acts the opposite of the rumors about him, I’m pretty sure most people can detect it is a rumor.

      • POCOMAXA November 11, 2013 at 10:41 pm #

        Actions speak louder than words. Most of the criteria were based off of the actions of a man, not the words. If a man acts the opposite of the rumors about him, I’m pretty sure most people can detect it is a rumor.

        That didn’t work for me. My actions were upright, and the pastors knew it and vouched for me, but that counted for nothing. The dating-well was poisoned for me there, irrevocably.

        Eventually I left.

      • lovelyleblanc7 November 11, 2013 at 11:14 pm #

        I’m sorry to hear that, most women should get their information about somebody through a trust worthy source not rumors. They shouldn’t be engaging in that. A good Christian woman would pay attention to the words of her pastor than those who have nothing better to do than gossip.

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